I am so thankful, touched and humbled by the amount of support and encouragement we have received when I wrote the post about my son and his crush on a boy. Since I have some new readers I figured I would tell you just a bit about us.
I work for a media company, married to Cory who stays home with the kiddos and writes funny stuff. Sometimes it's more serious - this most recent write on HuffPo politics about the upcoming election is a good example. We live in a conservative place which does lead to some fear on how our gender bending child could be treated -see here. We have 3 kids.
Here is Twirl, most of you have heard about him. He is an excellent big brother, dancer and reader. He has loved clothes since he was two when he began a long running obsession of folding clothes.
Here he is at two
Twirl age 2
He loves pink, my little ponies, dressing up, art, and just being a kid. He also talks ALOT. He would like to grow up to be a fashion designer.
This is Firecracker. Our only girl, who can completely hold her own. She can be goofy and giggly and yes bossy too. She is an animal lover. She may grow up with quite the ego as Twirl likes to tell her how adorable she is when wearing a dress or skirt. I mean can ya blame him? She loves pink, my little ponies and electronics. She is tough as nails and the least likely to cry if she stumbles. She is also rarely still.
This is Tornado. He so far is a stereotypical boy. Toy thrower, climber, and mischievous. When he is still he will cuddle. He has lately played the role of little brother by being a toy grabber while the other two are playing. I have to admit it's hard not to laugh seeing him sneak up and grab Rainbow Dash (a my little pony) and tear across the room as the other two flip out. He usually drops it pretty fast, it's all about the chase to him. He is not 2 yet but also seems the most coordinated of the bunch - Firecracker can fall down standing still. Not kidding, it has happened. Multiple times.
It is fascinating to see the differences in these kids. They are all great kids, we love them and worry about all of them, but that's our job. I will say, that after Twirl talked about his crush I have been worried. He has been teased some by older kids because he wears pink shoes and has pink glasses, pink backpack, etc. The school is aware and so far we feel they have taken everything very seriously. Twirl had an easy solution of avoidance. Apparently this was happening at lunch when he was at a side of the table that was close to another grade. When I asked him the next day how lunch went "oh fine, I just sat at the other side of the table and no one said anything" The kid has an amazing spirit and great confidence. He is using that well and came up with his own solution. He never said he would stop wearing all the things he likes or that he would change, he just stayed away from them. In some way our words about "people being different" and "mean people being wrong" have stuck with him. When I asked him what he thought about the kids who were teasing him said "Well, I would guess they are on the naughty list (santa)" Indeed kid, I bet they are.